Breaking Up is Hard to Do, But It’s Not ME, It’s TOTALLY You!

Sometimes in life you have to make the tough decision to walk away from toxic relationships. In our technological age, this doesn’t just apply to the human-to-human type of relationships but also to the human-to-social network type of relationships.

As some of you may know, I’m always on the lookout for a network or platform where I can find an audience for my work. I hadn’t been too happy with using online stores that charge a lot of fees on top of the Paypal fees when making sales for a small handmade business. Facebook also wasn’t the best choice because of the view limits that are imposed on public pages. I’ve tried several platforms but recently decided that two monetized platforms were just eating my time and creativity without providing much in return in the way of sales or growth for my business. This breakup letter is about them, although they shall both remain nameless since I see no need to give them any more publicity or link love.

Dear Social Networks,

I remember when we met so well. I was an original content creator full of ideas and humor and creativity, and I saw in you the perfect escape from a platform which hid my qualities from those that cared for me. You offered a place where I could still own my content, and where my talents would be exposed to new audiences along with a tiny monetary incentive just for doing so. My friend and I quickly joined up (she brought me to one and I brought her to the other). I even invited more friends along. How full of mirth and possibilities we were! We met new people who liked our work and people whose work we liked as well! It was definitely a lustful honeymoon period. Unfortunately, it did not last long at all.

Social Network Number 1 – Oh the features you had. Glorious and many although a bit confusing to new users who may have found it overwhelming. When I created a private group to try and help my friends along and to get to know you better, your admin barged right into the group to start answering questions even though you had never been invited as a member of the group. That was the first sign of problems between us. Boundaries, people. They are important! When I explained to you how some of your post reactions were being seen as very negative to new users, you argued with me, even though I was trying to help and make it a better experience for all. Your low traffic site was overrun with robots that all the real users could clearly see and recognize, but you must have thought we were not intelligent enough to notice. You confused me with my dear friend. Big mistake. How can a relationship last when you can’t even tell the difference between your users who surely have different IP addresses, being in separate countries? It wasn’t bad enough that you couldn’t tell us apart, but then you treated her badly by hanging on to her money for far too long when she made a sale on your site and proceeded to make public the conversations you had with her in a group because you still couldn’t tell us apart. Obviously, I chose my friend over you because you would have treated me the same way. And so we had to part ways. It’s sad that I had so much hope for you and would have been willing to bring more people to you if you had treated me right. But I can only base my decisions on what I see and learn. I’m a woman who knows I can’t marry you and then change you. I’m just glad we did not bring many children (people I invited to the site) into the equation.

Admins randomly downvote member's posts - because "the world isn't perfect and so we shouldn't try to be," or "because I was in a bad mood and it releases stress?" - wtf?

Admins randomly downvote member’s posts – because “the world isn’t perfect and so we shouldn’t try to be,” or “because I was in a bad mood and it releases stress?” – wtf?

hmmm - different users but with the same profile pic - one is just cropped smaller.

hmmm – different users but with the same profile pic – one is just cropped smaller.

Out of context comments that have nothing to do with posts or other comments appear randomly generated and the same phrases used by many accounts.

Out of context comments that have nothing to do with posts or other comments appear randomly generated and the same phrases used by many accounts.

Social Network Number 2 – It wasn’t long before I noticed that while you continued to say you cared for me and valued me that you only introduced everyone to your sexy model friends while I stood by in the background. You also didn’t seem to know how to keep a professional distance from most people although you did with me. Maybe a little too distant. I guess that should have told me something. You made preferential distinctions between my friends and also between my friends and myself. It was so cute how you’d verify them but then tell me I needed to meet so many qualifications and be verified elsewhere for you to do the same for me (seriously, NO, it WASN’T at all cute – 5 out of the 6 people you verified had no more qualifications or verification than I did when I last checked, or did you think none of us could actually check on other platforms?  You’re so funny.  And by “funny,” I mean “not”).  Then I noticed you only had dialog with certain ones of your friends and only promoted certain ones. Many of the people you promoted didn’t really offer much in the way of content. Some only knew how to curate links that could easily be found by using a Google search, even though you talked as though Google owed us all something for our content too. Interesting. Many times over I’ve seen evidence of favoritism that you’ve denied despite the fact that I have screen shots and proof. It was so endearing that you claimed to roll out groups in the order they were applied for (seriously, NO, it WASN’T at all endearing when I have proof of the order they were applied for and in which they were approved).  I also am left wondering how much all my unpaid work in beta groups made for charity (all ad revenue went to a charity for over two months) and that was never disclosed to us.  That type of lipstick on your collar made me make up my mind long ago to leave you. And if I hadn’t had children to care for, I would have left immediately. Your complete disdain from communication has been a problem from the start and I’m not the first of your members to mention it.  It always seems to be a case of just “a little too little and a little too late” from you when it comes to sharing info that might have saved a relationship.  Somehow you create your own problems because of it, despite having the clear means, tools, and ability to communicate effectively. So I’m leaving you too.

How is it possible to have more likes (hearts) than views (eyes)? Surely a persona would have to view it in order to have actually clicked the like button? I have so many examples of this happening and never a good explanation.

How is it possible to have more likes (hearts) than views (eyes)? Surely a person would have to view it in order to have actually clicked the like button? I have so many examples of this happening and never a good explanation.

Sometimes your views just disappear altogether, even when in reality there were over 400. Doesn't inspire a lot of faith on a monetized platform.

Sometimes your views just disappear altogether, even when in reality there may have been over 400. Doesn’t inspire a lot of faith on a monetized platform.

It's not just me.

It’s not just me.

Some verified accounts direct others to unshare/unfriend/unfollow other accounts and only follow and friend their own friends. This creates division and seems like a scheme to monopolize the ad revenue generated on the platform to their own family trees. It's not the first time I saw it and it happens to a whole list of users, some of whom had no interaction at all with the ones directing the unfollows. Management is aware of it, but it continues.

Some verified accounts direct others to unshare/unfriend/unfollow other accounts and only follow and friend their own friends. Seems like a scheme to monopolize the ad revenue generated on the platform to their own family trees, something the TOS used to spell out was unacceptable. It’s not the first time I saw it and it happens to a whole list of users. Management is aware of it, but it continues.  Could really hamper having your brand seen.

I can only blame myself for being hopeful and wasting more of my time and gifts than I should have on either of you. Otherwise, I was honest and as respectful and patient as any woman could be when they feel passed over. So yeah, we’re breaking up, but it’s totally on you.

P.S. I think Myspace has the last laugh.

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Data from May 10, 2016

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Group Therapy Experiment

We have taken it upon ourselves to solve the anxiety problem on a certain social network for those waiting for groups to be approved. Since neither I nor any of the test subjects are qualified or educated in any kind of therapy except for retail therapy, and also because of our limited grant funding, we chose the medication route and are pleased to introduce you to our new designer drugs.

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 From a pool of 100 points possible for each test subject, Chris has earned 98 points for her new Chill Pill. You can tell it's a chill pill because by the final phase, it is wearing a lovely coat and hat and seems much happier. I had to subtract 50 points from Chris for scaring the stuffing out of us with her second failed project, otherwise known as "the blue one," because it looked like a bomb about to explode. It turns out it was just a clock. But the mess of overturned tables and chaos cost us extra in janitorial funds. I did give her a bonus of 51 points for the cute outfit on this successful pill though. Total points = 99. Well done, @Ms_Awesome !

From a pool of 100 points possible for each test subject, Chris has earned 98 points for her new Chill Pill. You can tell it’s a chill pill because by the final phase, it is wearing a lovely coat and hat and seems much happier. I had to subtract 50 points from Chris for scaring the stuffing out of us with her second failed project, otherwise known as “the blue one,” because it looked like a bomb about to explode. It turns out it was just a clock. But the mess of overturned tables and chaos cost us extra in janitorial funds. I did give her a bonus of 51 points for the cute outfit on this successful pill though. Total points = 99. Well done, Chris!

*Above photo belongs to Chris Fischer and used here with permission.

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Ashley scored 80 points right off the bat with her new Chill Pill. He was totally unexpected and I had to award her 20 bonus points for being the first to complete the experiment as well as her very cool details of shades, lips, hair and beach towel. He is guaranteed to help people chill and relax! 🙂 Total points = 100! Fabulous and creative work!

*Above photo belongs to Ashley Wagner and is used here with permission.

 

Clair has been awarded 49 points for these shell-shocked chill pills. They are just too cute with their embellishments and facial expressions. But that is not all! She received bonus points for her last project which included her signature style. See next post.

Clair has been awarded 49 points for these shell-shocked chill pills. They are just too cute with their embellishments and facial expressions. But that is not all! She received bonus points for her last project which included her signature style. See next post.

Clair received a bonus of 50 points for completing this designer chill pill in addition to her shell-shocked series. This one has her signature voodoo style and was made in a larger dosage for those who need the maximum amount of chilling! ;) Total points = 99 and a job well done!

Clair received a bonus of 50 points for completing this designer chill pill in addition to her shell-shocked series. This one has her signature voodoo style and was made in a larger dosage for those who need the maximum amount of chilling! 😉 Total points = 99 and a job well done!

*Above two photos belong to Clair of Clair’s Weird Crafts and are used here with permission.

Faye was immediately awarded 98 points for her set of chill pills. She made a nesting set of different sizes and facial expressions! Super creative and industrious. I also had to give her a bonus point for the wonderful gif she made of them in action! :) Total points = 99 and stellar results! :)

Faye was immediately awarded 98 points for her set of chill pills. She made a nesting set of different sizes and facial expressions! Super creative and industrious. I also had to give her a bonus point for the wonderful gif she made of them in action! 🙂 Total points = 99 and stellar results! 🙂

*Photo above belongs to Faye Brown and is used here with permission.

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Sparklerose earned 60 points right away with her wonderful Chilly Pill. I then awarded 39 more because she was able to turn him into Chilly Willy with a little medicinal help, mind you. I almost subtracted those 39 points back when I realized what was causing the odd smell in the lab (fire risks, don't you know?) but when I saw how improved he actually was, I couldn't bring myself to take any points away. Plus, cool hat! Total points = 99 and a very creative and successful project!

Sparklerose earned 60 points right away with her wonderful Chilly Pill. I then awarded 39 more because she was able to turn him into Chilly Willy with a little medicinal help, mind you. I almost subtracted those 39 points back when I realized what was causing the odd smell in the lab (fire risks, don’t you know?) but when I saw how improved he actually was, I couldn’t bring myself to take any points away. Plus, cool hat! Total points = 99 and a very creative and successful project!

*Above photo belongs to Carmel of Sparklerose Designs and is used here with permission.

Danielle earned 70 points for her gorgeous blue chill pill. An additional 29 points was added when she personalized her designer drug with awesome hair, facial features and his own little sleeping bag to cuddle up in. So tiny, so detailed, so fabulous! Total points = 99 and an exceptional result! :)

Danielle earned 70 points for her gorgeous blue chill pill. An additional 29 points was added when she personalized her designer drug with awesome hair, facial features and his own little sleeping bag to cuddle up in. So tiny, so detailed, so fabulous! Total points = 99 and an exceptional result! 🙂

*Above photo belongs to Danielle Montgomery and is used here with permission.

Melinda earned 75 points for her various selection of designer drugs - happy pills, love pills, crazy pills, and chill pills! She also earned an additional 24 points for fabulous finishing details like crazy hair, scarf and hat, and a gorgeous heart. Fabulous work by a fabulous stitcher! Total points = 99!

Melinda earned 75 points for her various selection of designer drugs – happy pills, love pills, crazy pills, and chill pills! She also earned an additional 24 points for fabulous finishing details like crazy hair, scarf and hat, and a gorgeous heart. Fabulous work by a fabulous stitcher! Total points = 99!

*Above photo belongs to Melinda Manley and used here with permission.

 Olga receives 94 points for her fabulous little chill pill. He was unique from the start with his coloring and dynamite mohawk (or are those dragon scales?). I have to award another bonus amount of 5 points because he has sprouted arms since the last time I saw him and that mug is the pefect hangout for him. Fabulous work on a great designer pill! Total points = 99!

Olga receives 94 points for her fabulous little chill pill. He was unique from the start with his coloring and dynamite mohawk (or are those dragon scales?). I have to award another bonus amount of 5 points because he has sprouted arms since the last time I saw him and that mug is the pefect hangout for him. Fabulous work on a great designer pill! Total points = 99!

Above photo belongs to Olga of Notablestitches and is used here with permission.

 Susan just missed the 100 point mark. She made so many of these cute little chill pills that she filled a jar for a friend. I did have to subtract a point though since she said they now smell like pickles and we aren't sure if her friend even likes pickles. ;) Total points = 99 and a fabulous bottle of designer chill pills!

Susan just missed the 100 point mark. She made so many of these cute little chill pills that she filled a jar for a friend. I did have to subtract a point though since she said they now smell like pickles and we aren’t sure if her friend even likes pickles. 😉 Total points = 99 and a fabulous bottle of designer chill pills!

*Above photo belongs to Susan Morgan and is used here with permission.

Regina earned 24 points for her adorable little pill and I couldn't help but award her another 75 when I saw his face, hair, hat, and adorable little toes!!! And look how much fun he had climbing out of that pill bottle! Pure awesomeness! Total points = 99!!! I want him. :)

Regina earned 24 points for her adorable little pill and I couldn’t help but award her another 75 when I saw his face, hair, hat, and adorable little toes!!! And look how much fun he had climbing out of that pill bottle! Pure awesomeness! Total points = 99!!! I want him. 🙂

*Above photo belongs to Regina McQ and is used here with permission.

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Dottie Lou earned 35 points for her initial drugs, but an additional 64 points for the fabulous embellishments like hair and appendages. What a colorful prescription! Total points = 99! 🙂

*Above photo belongs to Dottie Lou Crisp and is used here with permission.

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Carmel has earned 40 points for her gorgeously shaded designer chill pill and an additional 59 for the adorable hat and scarf it is wearing. He must be toasty now, all bundled up like that! Total points = 99 and another fabulous job well done! 🙂

*Above photo belongs to Michele of Greybriar Hollow and is used here with permission.

Thanks to all my test subjects for their efforts and hard work.  This experiment started off all crazy due to some unexpected glitches getting people into the group.  I apologize to those I lost on the way and hope to have you in a future experiment.

 

 

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Under Construction

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I mentioned in a previous post that there would be changes coming to this website and how I do things.  I’m slowly making progress towards those goals but am still in transition, so I thank you for your patience.  At the moment, the store for my finished items has been closed as well as my Craftsy store for pay patterns and they will be unavailable until I can get a new system into place.  I’m hoping to get that straightened out by the end of the month.  As always, my free patterns are still available right where they’ve always been (here on this site).  But I’ve eliminated some things that were just filling up my time and pared down on several others.  The whole EU VAT issue was another thing to take under consideration.  It affects all businesses that sell digital goods and I highly recommend going here to learn more about it since the plan is that it will also affect the sale of physical goods in the not too distant future as well as digital items.

My new newsletter has been launched (you can sign up for it in the right sidebar or use the menu icon on your phone to find it) and it’s gotten some very positive feedback.  I have to say I’m happy with the look and delivery that MailChimp offers and I’ve been having a great time on a new social network that I wrote about here.  Although I’ve written about it from a micro business standpoint, I think all the points are good for anyone using a social network whether for personal or for business reasons.  So far, so good, 2015.  I hope it is being good to you all as well.

 

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