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Breaking Up is Hard to Do, But It’s Not ME, It’s TOTALLY You!

Sometimes in life you have to make the tough decision to walk away from toxic relationships. In our technological age, this doesn’t just apply to the human-to-human type of relationships but also to the human-to-social network type of relationships.

As some of you may know, I’m always on the lookout for a network or platform where I can find an audience for my work. I hadn’t been too happy with using online stores that charge a lot of fees on top of the Paypal fees when making sales for a small handmade business. Facebook also wasn’t the best choice because of the view limits that are imposed on public pages. I’ve tried several platforms but recently decided that two monetized platforms were just eating my time and creativity without providing much in return in the way of sales or growth for my business. This breakup letter is about them, although they shall both remain nameless since I see no need to give them any more publicity or link love.

Dear Social Networks,

I remember when we met so well. I was an original content creator full of ideas and humor and creativity, and I saw in you the perfect escape from a platform which hid my qualities from those that cared for me. You offered a place where I could still own my content, and where my talents would be exposed to new audiences along with a tiny monetary incentive just for doing so. My friend and I quickly joined up (she brought me to one and I brought her to the other). I even invited more friends along. How full of mirth and possibilities we were! We met new people who liked our work and people whose work we liked as well! It was definitely a lustful honeymoon period. Unfortunately, it did not last long at all.

Social Network Number 1 – Oh the features you had. Glorious and many although a bit confusing to new users who may have found it overwhelming. When I created a private group to try and help my friends along and to get to know you better, your admin barged right into the group to start answering questions even though you had never been invited as a member of the group. That was the first sign of problems between us. Boundaries, people. They are important! When I explained to you how some of your post reactions were being seen as very negative to new users, you argued with me, even though I was trying to help and make it a better experience for all. Your low traffic site was overrun with robots that all the real users could clearly see and recognize, but you must have thought we were not intelligent enough to notice. You confused me with my dear friend. Big mistake. How can a relationship last when you can’t even tell the difference between your users who surely have different IP addresses, being in separate countries? It wasn’t bad enough that you couldn’t tell us apart, but then you treated her badly by hanging on to her money for far too long when she made a sale on your site and proceeded to make public the conversations you had with her in a group because you still couldn’t tell us apart. Obviously, I chose my friend over you because you would have treated me the same way. And so we had to part ways. It’s sad that I had so much hope for you and would have been willing to bring more people to you if you had treated me right. But I can only base my decisions on what I see and learn. I’m a woman who knows I can’t marry you and then change you. I’m just glad we did not bring many children (people I invited to the site) into the equation.

Admins randomly downvote member's posts - because "the world isn't perfect and so we shouldn't try to be," or "because I was in a bad mood and it releases stress?" - wtf?

Admins randomly downvote member’s posts – because “the world isn’t perfect and so we shouldn’t try to be,” or “because I was in a bad mood and it releases stress?” – wtf?

hmmm - different users but with the same profile pic - one is just cropped smaller.

hmmm – different users but with the same profile pic – one is just cropped smaller.

Out of context comments that have nothing to do with posts or other comments appear randomly generated and the same phrases used by many accounts.

Out of context comments that have nothing to do with posts or other comments appear randomly generated and the same phrases used by many accounts.

Social Network Number 2 – It wasn’t long before I noticed that while you continued to say you cared for me and valued me that you only introduced everyone to your sexy model friends while I stood by in the background. You also didn’t seem to know how to keep a professional distance from most people although you did with me. Maybe a little too distant. I guess that should have told me something. You made preferential distinctions between my friends and also between my friends and myself. It was so cute how you’d verify them but then tell me I needed to meet so many qualifications and be verified elsewhere for you to do the same for me (seriously, NO, it WASN’T at all cute – 5 out of the 6 people you verified had no more qualifications or verification than I did when I last checked, or did you think none of us could actually check on other platforms?  You’re so funny.  And by “funny,” I mean “not”).  Then I noticed you only had dialog with certain ones of your friends and only promoted certain ones. Many of the people you promoted didn’t really offer much in the way of content. Some only knew how to curate links that could easily be found by using a Google search, even though you talked as though Google owed us all something for our content too. Interesting. Many times over I’ve seen evidence of favoritism that you’ve denied despite the fact that I have screen shots and proof. It was so endearing that you claimed to roll out groups in the order they were applied for (seriously, NO, it WASN’T at all endearing when I have proof of the order they were applied for and in which they were approved).  I also am left wondering how much all my unpaid work in beta groups made for charity (all ad revenue went to a charity for over two months) and that was never disclosed to us.  That type of lipstick on your collar made me make up my mind long ago to leave you. And if I hadn’t had children to care for, I would have left immediately. Your complete disdain from communication has been a problem from the start and I’m not the first of your members to mention it.  It always seems to be a case of just “a little too little and a little too late” from you when it comes to sharing info that might have saved a relationship.  Somehow you create your own problems because of it, despite having the clear means, tools, and ability to communicate effectively. So I’m leaving you too.

How is it possible to have more likes (hearts) than views (eyes)? Surely a persona would have to view it in order to have actually clicked the like button? I have so many examples of this happening and never a good explanation.

How is it possible to have more likes (hearts) than views (eyes)? Surely a person would have to view it in order to have actually clicked the like button? I have so many examples of this happening and never a good explanation.

Sometimes your views just disappear altogether, even when in reality there were over 400. Doesn't inspire a lot of faith on a monetized platform.

Sometimes your views just disappear altogether, even when in reality there may have been over 400. Doesn’t inspire a lot of faith on a monetized platform.

It's not just me.

It’s not just me.

Some verified accounts direct others to unshare/unfriend/unfollow other accounts and only follow and friend their own friends. This creates division and seems like a scheme to monopolize the ad revenue generated on the platform to their own family trees. It's not the first time I saw it and it happens to a whole list of users, some of whom had no interaction at all with the ones directing the unfollows. Management is aware of it, but it continues.

Some verified accounts direct others to unshare/unfriend/unfollow other accounts and only follow and friend their own friends. Seems like a scheme to monopolize the ad revenue generated on the platform to their own family trees, something the TOS used to spell out was unacceptable. It’s not the first time I saw it and it happens to a whole list of users. Management is aware of it, but it continues.  Could really hamper having your brand seen.

I can only blame myself for being hopeful and wasting more of my time and gifts than I should have on either of you. Otherwise, I was honest and as respectful and patient as any woman could be when they feel passed over. So yeah, we’re breaking up, but it’s totally on you.

P.S. I think Myspace has the last laugh.

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Data from May 10, 2016

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True Love

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My husband, Igor, is so cute sometimes.  He has this thing he does where he will put the last slivers of soap from a used up bar onto the tub drain, thinking it will quickly and miraculously dissolve and disappear while he goes and opens a new bar to use.  And he’s partially right. It does quickly disappear, but it’s NO miracle.  I scoop that disgusting bath turd out of the drain along with any gross hair it has collected along the way and toss it right into the trash when it’s my turn to shower. I haven’t told him this.  I just let him have his dreams.

He lets me win sometimes when we play board games together so he lets me have mine too.

Now THAT is true love.  🙂

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Right Side Versus Wrong Side

To be perfectly honest, there is no right or wrong side, except as determined by a pattern or by your choice.  But to avoid confusion, most people will refer to a right and wrong side rather than an inside or outside.  In this photograph, Figures A and B are of Single Crochet stitches made by working in the round.  Most often, people will refer to the smoother side (A) as the right side which should be the outside of the piece and the more textured looking one (B) as the wrong side or inside.  And I normally prefer the A surface for my amigurumi work too, but for my free amigurumi peanut pattern, I actually prefer the B side to be on the outside as it has a texture that more resembles a peanut shell.

qa1imageFigures C and D are of Single Crochet swatches worked flat and they look almost identical.  However, in most cases, when a right handed person finishes Row 1, the cut tail of the yarn is on the left hand side and it will be for ALL odd numbered rows.  And conversely, when a left-handed person finishes Row 1, the cut yarn tail is on the right hand side and will be for ALL odd-numbered rows.  My cut yarn tails are on the bottom in each pic and I am right handed so we now know that Figure C shows that I am at a point where I just finished an even numbered row (Row 6). In Figure D, I had just turned the work to begin an odd-numbered row, Row 7.

So it is important to know what the pattern designer considers the “right” side or the outside if you are following a pattern.  This will help you achieve the closest match in looks for the desired result.  Fortunately, most patterns that are worked flat will indicate whether odd or even rows will be considered the right side.  And most patterns worked in the round will tell you if you need to turn the work inside out or not.  Confused?  Don’t worry.  Once you are comfortable with crochet and how it comes together, you are the boss and can decide for yourself!

 

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